Life as a Mom with ADHD: Chaos, Creativity, and a Lot of Coffee

As a mom with ADHD, I like to think of myself as a master multitasker. I can cook dinner, fold laundry, and help with homework all at the same time… as long as I don’t get distracted by the latest TikTok trend, of course.

But in all seriousness, ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) or ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) can make motherhood a little more chaotic than usual. I find that because I am so used to chaos all the time I am very calm when actual chaos happens. I think most people would be sent into a tailspin if they spent just one hour in my mind. So, let’s dive into what it is, how it can affect motherhood, and some strategies to help us all thrive.

What is ADHD?

ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder that affects around 1.8 million adults in Canada. It’s characterized by symptoms such as inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity, which can impact our daily lives in various ways.

ADD and ADHD is indistinguishable. The outdated term ADD (Attention-Deficit Disorder) has been superseded by the more recent, accurate description of ADHD (Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). Regardless of whether any hyperactive behaviours are exhibited or not; if they have this diagnosis, it will be classified as such – no matter what!

Symptoms of ADHD

As a mom with ADHD, some of the symptoms I experience include:

• Difficulty focusing on one task for an extended period of time
• Forgetfulness or losing things frequently (like my phone, keys, or the grocery list)
• Impulsiveness and acting without thinking (like buying yet another pair of shoes online).
• Struggling with organization and time management (I always forget about school projects until the night before they’re due)
• Hyperactivity and difficulty sitting still (I can’t sit through a whole movie without getting up to do something else)

How does ADHD show up in motherhood?

There’s no one answer to this question. However, research suggests that mothers with ADHD may experience more difficulty staying focused, managing their emotions, and managing their schedules. This can lead to increased stress levels and a decreased sense of control over our lives. We may feel like we’re constantly playing catch-up or forgetting important details.

But despite the challenges, having ADHD can also bring some unique strengths to motherhood. We tend to be creative, energetic, and passionate about our interests. We can also be great problem-solvers and think outside the box.

How can ADHD disrupt motherhood?

One of the critical ways that ADHD can affect motherhood is by disrupting our ability to focus and pay attention. This can lead to distractions while we’re trying to cook dinner or get kids ready for school. It can also lead to difficulties completing tasks or tasks that are important to us, such as taking care of the home.

How can ADHD affect our relationships?

Another key way that ADHD can affect our relationships is by increasing our communication and interpersonal skills struggles. We may find it difficult to keep up with conversations or stay on track during conversations. This can lead to tension within families and strained relationships with friends and loved ones.

Effective Strategies to Help You Thrive as a Mom with ADHD

As a mom with ADHD, here are some strategies that have worked for me:

• Embrace the chaos: Sometimes, we must accept that things won’t always go according to plan. I have now stopped blaming my easygoing nature on being an Aquarius and calling it what it is, self-preservation. Instead of stressing out about the mess or the missed deadlines, try to find the humour in the situation. Laughing at ourselves can be a powerful tool for coping with the challenges of ADHD.
• Get organized: While organization may not come naturally to us, it’s essential for managing the chaos of motherhood. Use a planner, create a to-do list, or set reminders on your phone to help you stay on top of your tasks. I have recently embarked on a new mission of decluttering my home and finding a place for everything we own. If I can’t find a place for it we aren’t keeping it. If you want tips to organize your closet check out this post. I’ve also shared some tips on how to spend your weekend to have an easy week here. I also have 25 kitchen organization hacks here.
• Prioritize self-care: As moms with ADHD, it’s easy to get caught up in the needs of our children and forget about our own needs. Make sure to take time each day, whether going for a walk, reading a book, or enjoying a cup of coffee in peace.
• Consider medication: While medication isn’t the right choice for everyone, it can be a helpful tool for managing the symptoms of ADHD. Talk to your doctor about whether medication is right for you.
• Find a support system: Whether it’s a friend, a support group, or a therapist, having a support system can make all the difference in managing ADHD as a mom. They can offer a listening ear, provide advice, or simply be a source of encouragement when things get tough. I have a couple of absolutely amazing friends who also have ADHD and don’t make me feel crazy when I speak about my life. It’s tough to try to explain how my brain works to people who don’t struggle in a similar way I do because they often just don’t get why I do things the way I do.
• Use technology to your advantage: Plenty of apps and tools can help with organization, time management, and productivity. Experiment with different options until you find what works best for you. I am constantly setting timers to complete tasks, which keeps me on track. I’ll tell my phone to set a timer for 20 minutes and aim to finish cleaning the kitchen, bathroom, closet, etc. in the allotted time.
• Try natural remedies: While there isn’t much scientific evidence to support the effectiveness of natural remedies for ADHD, some people find them helpful. I am some people. Read this post on my fave 8 supplements that help me regulate my ADHD symptoms. These can include things like exercise, meditation, or herbal supplements. As always, talk to your doctor before trying any new remedies.

Being a mom with ADHD can be challenging, but it can also be rewarding. With the right strategies and support, we can thrive as both moms and individuals. So, the next time you find yourself struggling with the chaos of motherhood, remember that you’re not alone. Take a deep breath, grab a cup of coffee, and embrace the unique strengths that come with having ADHD.

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