Boobs Are For Feeding Babies #BoobsAre4FeedingBabies

#BoobsAre4FeedingBabies www.homewithaneta.com
#BoobsAre4FeedingBabies www.homewithaneta.com

My 5 year old gets it #BoobsAre4FeedingBabies

Boobs are for feeding your baby, so simple but so difficult for most to understand. It has been my mission since having Aria 18 months ago to normalize breastfeeding to my older kids, husband and most of all myself.

I have not always been pro-breastfeeding, even less so breastfeeding in public, and with no cover (oh my) and my worst past judgement was judging moms who breastfed past the one year mark.

My views have changed as I educated myself more, as I became aware of the rights women have worldwide and how they are being stifled, and most of all from deciding to try out breastfeeding my third child. What was supposed to be a few months maximum has stretched beyond my wildest expectations into 18+ months of bonding and cuddling my little girl.

With my first two kids I pumped for them for the first three months of their lives because I had heard “breast is best” but I was never really into the whole idea of breastfeeding. At that point I thought formula was easier and I would just prop a bottle up with a pillow and let them eat themselves to sleep. **This is not safe and I don’t recommend it at all as my son got a flat head on one side and a stiff neck over preferring the bottle on one side.

I am upset almost daily over hearing about a woman being told to move or cover up while feeding her child. With the help of social media these stories flood my feeds and I absolutely hate the fact that this is still an issue. Breastfeeding your child is a BASIC HUMAN RIGHT. Whenever, where ever and however a woman does it is LEGAL (in Canada). There is no opinion on whether it is right or wrong that matters because it is LEGAL.

A woman’s boobs have a primary function, to feed their children. At some point in our lives they become sexualized and I am not saying this doesn’t happen. I just like the next person can appreciate a beautiful set of boobs but I am not being turned on when I see a woman feed her child. Neither are you, or your husband or your children no matter what you may be telling yourself (maybe your teenager but any boobs are exciting at that point).

It is up to us to change our mindsets and remember WHY woman have boobs. Teach your children from an early age that breast feeding is 100% legal anywhere and everywhere. Breastfeeding is a way of giving your child the best meal that is a perfect temperature at all times. I want my kids to grow up un-phased when they see a woman feeding her child. I don’t want my son being that employee at a restaurant telling a woman she has to cover up or even worse leave because others are uncomfortable. I want him to be the one to support her and protect her rights. It starts at home and it starts with parents teaching their kids.

Prime examples of things that really piss me off lately:

  • Telling a mom to go feed her baby in the washroom…are you freaking kidding me? Why don’t you take your spaghetti dinner and go eat it in the toilet with someone shitting in the next stall. Does it sound appealing to you?
  • Telling a mom to cover up…just shut up. Covering up while you are feeding your child is not as easy as it seems. Sure you can put the cover on but it gets hot in there, its dark, it’s distracting to the baby and most of all IT IS NOT legally necessary. I am a mom who does choose to cover up my watermelon sized breasts when I feed because I WANT TO not because someone asked me to cover up. I will let you know that I once fed my child at Black Creek Pioneer Village outside of a 200 person wedding with NO cover because my child wanted to eat and was not having said cover. Thankfully the employees are great there and said nothing to me other than let me know that the wedding would be ending soon.
  • My husband and kids are uncomfortable seeing this woman all exposed. Are you sure? Stand up for your fellow women and all the progress we made as a sex and tell your kids and husband that boobs are for woman to feed their children. Don’t be part of the problem be the solution. If you are going to try and take away a woman’s right to feed her child you may as well also be advocating for us to not be able to work, wear pants or vote.

Next point, extended breastfeeding past the one year mark. This is a doozy for me. I WAS one of these people that didn’t understand it. I always wondered WHY people did this. Than I started to read and educate myself and in turn I educated MY family. Moms go to work, become pregnant, and than get that coveted 1 year off for maternity leave. That leaves you 1 year to breastfeed your baby and so we in turn think this is the way it is supposed to be. We accept it because that is the option we have. It is a way to protect yourself from feeling bad about stopping. The World Health Organization recommends you feed your child till they are 2 years old. THAT is when their immune system is formed and they no longer need your immunities from YOUR breast-milk. Why would you not want to give your child what was best or judge another mom for wanting to do so? No matter how long a mother chooses to feed her child it is HER OWN CHOICE…stop judging her over something you clearly don’t or can’t understand.


My 6 year old also gets it…

It is never to late to change your mind and that of others. I was 28 when I first started realizing the issues surrounding breastfeeding. I am lucky that I have a great support system around me with my breastfeeding journey or I would have surely given up and missed out on all the health benefits and bonding breastfeeding has given me. For me I am on a #BoobsAre4FeedingBabies life mission now, even if these situations have not happened to me, I will not be the problem, I will be part of the solution.

All I ask is you rethink your stance on breastfeeding and not be judgmental. Stop feeding into the social stigma that boobs mean sex and remember #BoobsAre4FeedingBabies 🙂


Aneta Alaei
Aneta Alaei

Aneta is a Toronto-based mom of four that loves a good meal, great company, and learning something new. In her free time, you can find her trying to keep yet another plant alive.

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  1. Laurie P
    June 5, 2015 / 3:35 pm

    Fantastic post!!! You’ve stated a lot of points that a lot of people are thinking and want to shout out!

  2. June 5, 2015 / 11:54 pm

    Thanks Laurie! It is controversial but it is honest 🙂

  3. jamie hall
    June 9, 2015 / 11:43 pm

    thank you for this post I never gave much thought to breastfeeding except that if you can do it, it best for baby. When I had my daughter I was subjected to peoples negative views towards breastfeeding. I have a large chest and found it hard to do in public, and found myself being self conscience. I really hope peoples negativity around breastfeeding changes. Its ok for woman to have loads of cleavage but heaven forbid feed a baby with them- it needs to change!

  4. Laurie P
    June 30, 2015 / 11:51 am


    Just remembered the many times I “had” to cover up because my teen son didn’t want to see his mothers boob. lol.

  5. Victoria Ess
    August 27, 2015 / 1:12 pm

    Love this message. I cannot believe it when I heard people shaming or being grossed out by women breastfeeding! It’s disappointing.

  6. Tammi L.
    January 22, 2019 / 6:42 pm

    In 2003/4 I was adamant that I wouldn’t be intimidated when breastfeeding in public until one day I was asked to go to a special room that was made specifically for that purpose. I always thought I would stand up for myself in that situation but I looked around and saw other peoples faces and there was everything from embarrassment and discomfort to anger. Off I went with my head down.